Every woman has been in this situation: She’s at a bar, hanging out with her girlfriends, and some dude comes up, spitting some sorry excuse for game, and offers to buy her a drink. She smiles politely and informs the dude that she’s got a boyfriend.
Except she doesn’t.
She’s totally single. She either doesn’t want to be bothered on a night out with her friends or she’s simply not interested in this d-bag. In either case, why does she need to lie? Call me old-fashioned, but shouldn’t the truth suffice?
Girls usually hide behind the lie to expedite things. If she tells the truth, then the guy is going to desperately try to sell himself, Billy Mays-style. If that’s the case, then ladies just need to bitch it up. A guy won’t think twice about walking away from a real ball-buster, so rather than lying about some fantasy boyfriend, why doesn’t she just put on her bitchitude?
And fake engagement rings? This is taking things a little far, isn’t it? This is making a monetary investment in a facade. Again, rather than buying some cubic zirconia for a 20-spot and pretending that you live in some soap opera or Sandra Bullock movie, let’s just work on telling the truth and cutting the unneeded drama out of our lives.
telling someone you have a boyfriend is a nicer thing to say to someone that is ugly and not worth your time. Plus it’s the easiest way to get the guy to move on so you can go back to having a girls night. If you try and tell him you’re not interested or tell him it’s a girls night…They stick around. They pleed their case on why they are so wonderful. All a girl wants to do is get back to her friends. Also, as a girl, you don’t owe anything to the guy brave enough to come up and talk to you. You don’t know him. Why does it matter if you lie to him?
You’re not in a relationship with him…
This post just sounds like you guys are bitter about something
how about not lying because its wrong and simply a reflection of your huge lack of integrity and substance? Did you ever hear of integrity? Obviously that’s a word women don’t understand along with loyalty, fortitude, virtue, honor, and committment. It’s not about “owning” somebody something it’s about not being a piece of shit.
What are you supposed to do when you tell the truth, you’re nice about why you don’t want to talk to them, get mean when they won’t take no for an answer, even threaten them, and they STILL do not leave you alone? My normal reaction to smack someone, but that’s called assault, so any suggestions on a legal way to get someone to leave you the hell alone?
I’m guilty (mine actually cost me $14.99 on ebay)……but why? Because for some reason the men that approach me won’t take no for an answer. EVEN when I tell them I’m taken…starting out with I’m taken gets it over faster…:)
Most men I’ve encountered do not take no for an answer. I’ve had men verbally harass me for saying, “sorry, I’m just here for a night out with friends. I’m not interested, but thank you.” What part of that makes me a bitch? I don’t know. But men somehow can’t deal with rejection. Maybe you can, but I’ve never encountered you. Just douche bags.
But if I use the truth, which is I’m a lesbian and in a committed relationship, they never leave me alone. Suddenly they want to get in my pants even more and like to tell me how good they are at eating pussy. It’s gross.
So usually I opt for the “I have a boyfriend” approach. I don’t like lying, but really, it’s just easier and works way better than the truth. So, if you know women do that, then just translate it yourself. It means “go away.” Until more men learn how to take no for an answer, we’re going to continue doing it.
Cop Killa you sound like you have been screwed over by one too many girls. Don’t take your sad life out on me for being honest. You talk and talk about being honest, so I was…and what happend? You called me a piece of shit and was an ass about it. Thats exactly what I’m talking about. Men don’t need to hear the truth when you’re not in a relationship with them because then they turn into assholes.
I’m sticking by what I said. I don’t own them anything. Telling them a small lie to save their feelings and get them away from me is fine by me. If I went up to a guy that wasn’t into me I would much rather have him say he has a gf then he’s not into me.