There are women out there who, despite the fact that they’re decidedly single, have elaborate plans for their future wedding. And I’m not just talking about girls who own a wedding magazine or two, or the ones who have already decided on their bridesmaids. I’m talking about full-blown, all-out planning for a wedding that may be years away.

I’m talking about the girls who already have compiled The Book, even though they’re lifetime members of the single club.

The Book takes many forms, but, in essence, it’s a scrapbook of fabrics, magazine cutouts, advertisements, photographs, and maybe even CDs. It could be as informal as a manila folder, as intense as an embroidered photo album, or as high tech as an Excel spreadsheet. No matter what form “the book” takes, all the single ladies have no business making one.

To say the least, it’s putting the cart before the horse. Single women who obsess about getting married are taking their eyes off the prize - finding a man first. Before you know it, these same “book”-makers are settling for less-than-stellar dudes just because he’s “kind of a nice guy” and he’ll look good in a tux.

Never mind the fact that they’re not all that compatible. These women have placed their obsession above practicality, and that’s dangerous waters.

Tip for dudes: If you find a wedding planner scrapbook in your lady’s house, run. Fast.